What Is a Mother's Love? 12
Chapter 10
Have Positive Images of Your Children
You, as a mother, are very busy every day. You stay alert to protect the safety of your children. You might have the following thoughts in your mind:
"My baby always comes and clings to me when I am in the kitchen. I'm afraid that she might burn herself."
"My son often attacks others. I'm afraid that he might become a delinquent."
"My daughter goes out alone. I'm afraid that she might be hit by a car, or some other bad thing might happen."
"I'm afraid that my son might be subject to bullying."
"I'm afraid that my children might catch some bad disease."
"I'm afraid that my children cannot keep up with their classes."
It is very important to think of your children in this way, because you are their mother. However, if you have had these images in your head for a long time, you will produce poison in your mind. Then, you will think that these images will someday become reality. This notion will threaten you gradually, and you will feel stress as a result. This will make your childrearing difficult. Next, you will start yelling strongly when you give instructions to your children.
"I said to you not to cling to me when I'm in the kitchen!"
"Why do you do only what you must not do?!"
"I said to you not to go out, or you might be hit by a car!"
"I said to you not to hang out with bad kids!"
"I said to you to wash your hands every time after using the toilet!"
Furthermore, you might start to threaten your children in order to make them obey.
"You will become ill if you keep doing that!"
"You will be kidnapped by someone malicious!"
"You will be injured if you keep doing that!"
"You will fail out of your class if you keep hanging out like this!"
You might say similar things not only to your children, but also to your husband or parents.
If your child came home being injured, you might say, "Look at you! I told you that would happen!" If you look into your deep mind, you will find that you would be feeling triumphant because you predicted the outcome with your instincts. You do not intend for your son to become injured, but you will understand that those images and words act like curses to others.
When you become aware of a curse in your mind against someone, you must stop thinking about that negative image and create a positive image for him/her instead.
Examples:
"My daughter goes out alone. I'm afraid that she might be hit by a car or some other bad thing might happen."
→ "She is okay. She will be back home safely!"
"I'm afraid that my son might be subject to bullying."
→ "He is okay. He will have a lot of friends in his class!"
"I'm afraid that my children might catch some bad disease."
→ "They are okay. They can protect themselves from disease!"
"I'm afraid that my children cannot keep up with their classes."
→ "They are okay. They will study well and get good grades!"
You do not need to think about how to achieve these results. Just create positive thoughts and keep positive images for your children!
(This series is cited by the text of Fractal Psychology Parenting Course. If you learn more, please contact us.)
